Have you ever lied about your age? I think it’s safe to say that we’ve all lied about our age at some point in our life.
When you were a teenager, you might have lied about your age to appear older in order to take advantage of privileges reserved for people who were older or to increase your chances of catching the attention of a certain boy.
Later in life, you might have lied about your age to date a younger man or because you simply felt that your age didn’t reflect where you thought you’d be at this point in your life.
It could also simply be that you’ve lied about your age because certain “numbers” made you feel “old” and that feeling scared you.
DefineYourself.ca has just launched a nationwide contest: the Best Lie About Your Age Contest which is open until August 22, 2008.
The contest was inspired by a recent story in the British press about a talkshow host who admitted to keeping quiet when the media dropped a year from her real age ... DefineYourself.ca wants Canadians to share their great lie stories.
The contest is open to all Canadian men and women and will be judged based on the craftiest and most outrageous story. Alas, American readers won’t be able to participate in this contest.
The judging panel consists of women from DefineYourself.ca’s previous season casts and yours truly!
Here’s the best part of the contest: the crowned Anti-Aging Diva will receive a $1,000 credit for a day of pampering and services and will be featured on DefineYourself.ca!!!
To participate, simply visit DefineYourself.ca to enter!
Tuesday, July 15, 2008
Looking to find the next Anti-Aging Diva!
Thursday, June 26, 2008
DefineYourself.ca awarded for innovative approach
We just arrived back from New York where we were honoured by the IABC with a Gold Quill award. I guess we are striking a chord with women, and marketers!
The IABC recently awarded the Define Yourself campaign with the Gold Quill award for Excellence in creating an electronic communications platform which effectively delivers a message and engages our community of boomer women.
We are thrilled that the IABC recognized our authentic approach in appealing to women around feelings and experiences, not sales.
Watch our thank you video.
Listen to our interview with Blog Talk Radio.
Wednesday, June 18, 2008
Can your looks prevent you from getting that promotion or close that deal?
It seems that when it comes to answering this question, women fall into two camps: 1) those who think that it’s all about what you have to bring (aka: your skills and your intelligence) and 2) those who think that their message can only go further if they present themselves in a certain way.
A lot of women still think that taking time for themselves to present themselves in the best light is vain.
Historically, vanity has never been a trait one aspires to. Who wants to be labeled as shallow, petty, weak, and self-centered? No one really wants to be perceived as being vain…at least no one wants to be vain and have others notice it.
But this begs the question: Are we not all a little vain? If we didn’t have the slightest penchant for vanity, we’d all throw our mirrors out the window because we’d have no use to admire ourselves in attempt to looking our best.
Truth be told, we do care about our appearances and we do care about how we are perceived by others. This resonates even louder as we age.
Now, I want to make sure that I’m clear here, I’m not talking about being or becoming a people-pleaser and I’m not saying that others should define who we are. Nah, what I’m saying is that the way we present ourselves has bearing on our own self-esteem but also on how others perceive us.
This is where the title of this post comes in. There are certain things that remain unsaid, but if you are in position that represents the company you work for or if you’re in a profession that requires you to negotiate, your appearance could help you make or break a deal.
Some of us are lucky enough to have a gene pool and/or a lifestyle that will take us well into our seventies with minimal medical interference. But for others, a little help from our cosmetic dermatologist or plastic surgeon might be required if we intend on looking a certain way as we age.
Today ageism is a bit more subtle. No one will tell you that you look tired all the time and that clients are not responding all that well to the image your project, instead, a younger colleague might start getting more clients or deals than you or perhaps you might not even be part of the list for that new coveted promotion.
I have an excellent example of a school teacher who had very strained relationships with her students (who feared her) and on parent nights, few parents really wanted to interact with her. This school teacher (who was in her mid 30s) had a strong frown muscle that made her look angry all the time. A friend of hers suggested Botox® and ever since, this school teacher’s relationships with her students, peers and parents of her students have changed radically.
Can the anti-aging industry become an industry of pure vanity that strives to attain an unreachable image of perfection and eternal youth? Is it possible to walk around with an exaggerated frozen expression because of too much Botox®? Can we go overboard with too many cosmetic procedures in too short of a time period? Yes, of course, and there are too many examples to remind of us of the flip side of the anti-aging industry.
The goal here is to find a middle ground — somewhere between obsessive pursuit of beauty myths and just not caring enough about one’s appearance. That’s where most of us would hope to be as we age…and it is not particularly a bad thing.
Let’s put it out there — vanity is not all that bad. After all, it’s an undisputable fact that we feel better when we look better. We might want to brush it off as being futile, but there seems to be something deeply ingrained — perhaps deeper than any social pattern – that makes us feel better about ourselves when we look our best.
Furthermore, we send some messages that are completely unrelated to beauty when we look our best. It tells others that we care about ourselves. It communicates a sense of respect for our health and well-being. It also demonstrates a level of respect for others that we take the time and effort necessary to look good prior to dealing with them. It shows the world that we take it, and ourselves, seriously.
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Monday, June 9, 2008
Does ethnicity play a role in aging?
Project Runway Canada’s host, Iman, has been very vocal in her statement that: “black don’t crack”. If this is the first time you’ve heard of this saying it refers to the fact that many black women don’t show any signs of aging such as deep wrinkles and sagging skin simply because they are genetically blessed.
Well, study after study has proven that aging is 80-90 per cent related to lifestyle and not genes. On the subject of blacks never aging, I’ve seen my fair share of blacks who had deep wrinkles and sagging skin. If you smoke, drink heavily, worship the sun … you will age and it will show … regardless of your ethnic makeup.
That said, different ethnicities will show different signs of aging. Iman is not entirely wrong in her assessment. If you are black and if you take care of your skin, exercise, eat well, stay away from fast foods, don’t smoke, don’t drink heavily and if you don’t partake in recreational drugs, you should be able to hit your 70s and still fool people around you in thinking that you are 20 years younger.
Black beauties (as I like to call them) are born with an integrated anti-aging and protective photo-protective shield called melanin.
Melanin (the substance that gives skin its colour), plays a huge part in how different ethnicities show the signs of aging. Lighter and fairer complexions are very much susceptible to aging faster because harmful UV rays from the sun can penetrate their skin more easily and deeply. As a result, their skin loses moisture more quickly, and collagen breaks down more rapidly than in a thicker, darker skin.
Just in case you were wondering, melanin is found at the bottom of the epidermis. It acts as barrier against the rays that damage the dermis, acting as a built-in sun filter and considerably slowing down the signs of aging.
That said, although darker-skin beauties might not have to worry as much about photo-aging, they still have concerns about skin cancer, as melanin does NOT protect the skin against skin cancer.
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Wednesday, June 4, 2008
Everybody's line is different
Well I had to give this some serious thought before I answered. Because, while my default answer may have immediately been ‘no’, I have already made cosmetic enhancement, maintenance or ‘normalizing’ choices. I was born with a birthmark on my face and have had a series of laser treatments to reduce the birthmark over the last fifteen years. And, I wear makeup to cover the birthmark every day and have since I was thirteen years old. Why? Because it allows me to operate more effectively and comfortably in the world that we live in.
More importantly, I feel really strongly that women should not judge other women who make cosmetic choices. Because, it is a very personal choice and we don’t always know what drives people to do things or what each person’s individual story is. Everyone’s line is different.
Monday, May 26, 2008
Margaret from Season One Speaks with my Beauty Match
Be sure to tune in to this week’s podcast on mybeautymatch.com where Margaret discusses aging, being part of Define Yourself, the ways she maintains her youthful appearance, and her thoughts on the idea of “growing old gracefully”.
Listen to Margaret’s conversation on the Beauty Match Buzz Podcast and don’t miss Part One of the Define Yourself interviews.
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